Aubin Palmer (00:01)
Hello, Power Women. It is so good to be with you again. And this is Aubyn Palmer, your host, your coach, to be the Power Woman you are. And I hope that every time you listen to this podcast, you remember and are closer to just being in your power and feeling it and knowing that you really can do anything you desire. I was working on my book, The Power Woman book that is gonna be coming out so soon.
and talking with a friend about it and asking her why she didn't submit a story. Because if you don't know, this book is over 50 stories from different women sharing their moments of power to help you feel your power more. And she said, well, I wanted to, but I don't know if I am a power woman. And so many people said this to me as I was working on this book. And it just breaks my heart because you are. All of you are. And this friend particularly, I...
No, she is. I've seen the things she's gone through, how she has been in her power, everything that she does and is. And that is why I do this podcast. That is why I'm making this book is to help you see that. And when you doubt it, it just moves you further away from being in that power. It is always there. And so if this is why you take away from this episode today, that is enough. But we're going to talk about more, of course.
But starting off, I've just felt so strongly to remind you that you are a power woman. And that is why this podcast is here. That is why you are even drawn to it. And the fact that you want to remember it, that you want to feel it and utilize it and choose to see your power and be in power, that is a power move and you're already doing it. And so just listening even a little bit more is gonna help you do that today.
and I hope you feel that.
Today I wanted to talk about really trusting yourself and moving forward with just the next right step. One of the things I coach people a lot on and that they get stuck on is figuring everything out to move forward and to create lots of money and to have this big plan. And I had a client recently who was just saying, I am so behind, I am feeling so
so urgent and worried and frustrated and something's going wrong. And I was just so surprised when she said this because I know the intimate details of her business and how she's doing and she's doing amazing. And I just tuned in to what I was feeling and I said to her, I really believe you are so far ahead, you feel behind.
And she was taken back at first and said, what? What do you mean I'm so far ahead? I feel behind. And that is part of being a power woman is that often we are moving at such rapid pace and we're doing big things and making big changes at quantum leap levels. And yet our mind is in the chatter and saying, my gosh, we don't have this figured out. my gosh, this isn't done. my gosh, what am I going to do next?
and we're doing so much good things moving forward, we're so far ahead that you feel behind and your mind is figuring out ways that you're still behind. But pausing and first really just recognizing how far you have already come and how far ahead you really are. And the best thing you can do for yourself is to learn how to just take the next right step.
And like always, I'm not gonna tell you what the next right step is. You are. That comes from within you. That is your intuition, your divine answer from your future self, from God, that is always there at access and is usually pretty clear to people when I coach them and they're like trying to figure all these big things out that they don't even know how to figure out yet. They don't have enough experience or knowledge of what's going on.
So it's probably part of why it feels behind is they don't know everything yet. And so we can't really make plans and take action when we don't know everything that's going on yet. And so what I always say is let's not figure everything out. Let's come to a place of confidence and knowing that you will figure it out. You have figured things out before and you're going to ask and receive the next right step from
your divine self from your power woman self and then follow it and do it. And by doing that, you are going to gain information and you are going to know what to do next after that. And sitting in our minds in the chatter and worrying that we're behind and don't know what to do is actually moving you backwards, not forwards. And our mind
loves to do this. It loves to help us move forward by worrying and then pulling us back. And so we meet it with compassion and just say, thank you mind, thank you brain. I know why you're doing this. You're trying to help me figure it all out, but we don't have to have it figured out. I never have, I never will have it all figured out, but I know what the next right step is. And letting that chatter go and just deciding what you're going to do next. Now,
Often there's a little fear in just moving forward without everything figured out. But when we come to embrace the unknown of what's gonna happen in the future, which is true for everyone, but especially in entrepreneurship where you have a lot of effort and a lot of going into what's gonna happen next, you actually take more command and presence in the future, in the scene, in what's going on, what is known.
And that is power to have that power today to say, I don't know what's going to happen tomorrow, but I know who I am today. I know the next right step for me to take today and everything's going to work out tomorrow. I'm going to learn more by doing this today. I'm going to feel more confident and I'm going to figure things out tomorrow because tomorrow will be today, tomorrow. And
So with this client I was talking about, I challenged her to accept that she's so far ahead she feels behind and to let go of the urgency.
And when we have these feelings of like urgency, hustle, behind, they're just messages telling that we are acting from our ego, from our lower selves, from fear, and that we're not in an aligned energy, that we're not really following our true selves, we're not in our power. And really seeing that and saying, okay, what is true here?
What is what I need to listen to? And this is where I invite you to really learn to meditate and get out of your body and into your true self and out of your head into your body is a better way to say it too. And I used to think meditation was just to help me relax and to be more Zen, but.
I have found it is actually the best way to help silence the chatter, to not overthink, to not be so in my head about everything. When we need our heads, we need to think about things, we need to create beautiful thoughts, and we also need to think with our bodies, which was what meditation provides. And so just taking a deep breath right now even.
And finding your body. I love to just find any sensation in my body that is going on at that moment that I wasn't even recognizing. And this will help you get out of your head and just what are you feeling and go feel it. It can be good or bad. Uncomfortable or comfortable is the words I like to use, not negative, positive. But it's the emotions that are in your body. How does it feel right now? Are you happy? Are you scared? Are you worried about something?
Where are you feeling that in your body? And you don't even have to label the emotion if you don't want to, if it's not obvious. But getting out of your head and all the chatter of what's going on and just coming into your body, feeling it, meditating. This is getting you into your body to meditate and out of your head. And taking deep breaths helps a lot here too. And this, we just meditated for like five seconds together.
But if you need to pause right now and do it longer, you can.
and really learning to do this is how you will connect and feel more attuned and aligned with yourself to ask what is the next right step. So this client I was talking with, I told her to figure out the next right step. And don't you love it that I'm a coach that doesn't just tell you the answers? I help you attune into yourself to hear their next answer, the right answer from you. But that is what I wanna help you with. I want you to learn how to listen to yourself.
because I don't have all the answers for you, I have the answers for me and you have the answers for you and I want to help you come to that power to listen to yourself. That is what is gonna change your life. That is what is gonna transform your whole experience of being able to listen and know what is the next right thing for me. When I ask clients this, sometimes it takes a little pondering, but not too much.
And that's the fascinating thing is that it's not a wild goose chase of like, what's the next great step? You already know, but you're avoiding it and you're letting the chatter and the fear and the, don't have everything figured out and I had, I need to have this 20 page business plan written out for this new thing I'm wanting to do. That never helps. That's never needed.
just what is the next right step and it's gonna help you figure out a lot on the way. And so I want you to ask yourself what is going on right now with what I'm working on in my business and what is the next right step?
and then feel that peace. And then to take it to the next level, what do I need to do today? Now, that next step should probably be as simple as something you could do today, but maybe if there's multi-facets or steps within this next step, you can break it down and say, okay, this is what I need to do today. And trust that. Feel that energy of power, abundance, love, patience, trust, surrender.
That's the energy you're in as you take that next step. But because you're in that energy when you do it, things are going to come to more clarity. You're gonna get more answers. You're gonna be able to figure it out what to do next with that. And so then there's the next step. And the wonderful part about just taking one step at a time is the second step you take is gonna be very affected by what you learned from doing the first step.
Often when people want to it all mapped out, they think they have enough knowledge and they should just have it all figured out, but you don't know enough. And so by just taking it one step at a time...
you learn things, you figure things out that influence the next step. And so it's going to really help you know what to do next. And then the third step will be profoundly affected by things you learned at the second step and so forth and so forth. It just compounds on itself so quickly. And it really helps you to see.
that you are in power, that you are a creator, and that you know what to do. And this is really learning to trust yourself and trust the unknown. When I started my business, I was in anxiety a lot with the unknown. And business has been so helpful in getting to be comfortable and even embrace the unknown.
Nobody knows what's gonna happen tomorrow, for sure. We love the predictability, we know the sun's gonna come up, but what if it didn't? And there's always something that could happen that could change the trajectory of what's gonna happen in the future. And so I will always say and emphasize that business is the best self-help course and I heard recently it is, being an entrepreneur is the best act of self-love.
because you invest in yourself, you have to figure these things out, and learning to be okay with the unknown, but take the next right step is going to boost your confidence so much because you're not trusting in the predictability of things happening how they always do, the external, you're going to learn to have confidence in yourself in knowing that you will figure things out regardless of what's going on externally. That sun comes up every day.
But even if it doesn't, you're okay because you're in power. You're a power woman and you will take the next right step with what's going on and figure it out.
I know that as you really embrace this feeling of being confident and taking the next right step, embracing the unknown, you will make bigger moves. You will do bigger things and you will get things done faster. You're so far ahead you feel behind, but it's actually so available to keep moving forward the way you are.
and you just have to feel peace and enough where you are today. So take a moment, get out of your head into your body, ask what the next right step is, move forward, but you're already there. You're so far ahead, you're there and everything is working. You just take it one step at a time. You embrace the unknown, but by feeling
Peace with the unknown, you have more power today. Because you feel that confidence of you will figure it out and so you show up today in power and then tomorrow isn't scared because then tomorrow, when tomorrow is today, you're good. And so every day in the present, you are in power because whatever comes tomorrow, you've got it. Feeling this power will change your life and not just in business. That's why it's the best self-help course.
when you have to embrace this in business because you really do, to feel comfortable, to not be in fear all the time, but to move forward. And it helps you then in every other part of your life too because all of life is the same way. Nobody knows what's happening tomorrow for sure. So when you put that confidence in yourself that you will show up, the unknown is exciting. Because what if it's better than you can even imagine?
That's what I say to myself, is that tomorrow is gonna be better than I can even imagine. So stop trying to control it, embrace the unknown, receive and welcome things coming that I can't even think of, literally tomorrow and figuratively in years to come. That just feels so much better. But it requires trust and surrender and true inner confidence and power. But you have it. So.
Recognize you're ahead. You're doing things. You're making it happen. You are a power woman, but you don't have to feel behind anymore. Recognize where you are. Feel the power today. Be present. The unknown is good. It's going to be better than you can even imagine. My favorite example of that is just where I am today. Like five years ago when I started my business in June of 2020, if I saw this today, I would have
been so amazed. It's gone so much better than I could have even imagined. It's everything I wanted and more. Look at examples of this in your life and see that things are going to work out even better than you can imagine. See that power, see that ability to just live and create and that we don't have to control it. You're so far ahead, you feel behind, but now you're so far ahead, you are present.
You are thriving, you're in power, and you're creating and moving forward. I see you, Power Women. I feel your power as we're talking, and I love helping you feel it too, to move forward today. If this episode has helped you, please share it with someone, and I love to hear your experiences and your stories, so please always send me your stories and your DMs on Instagram or an email, Aubyn Palmer Coaching, and I will talk to you again next week.
Alright, have a good one.
