Aubin Palmer (00:01)
Hello, Power Women, and welcome to another episode of the podcast, Power Women. I love talking with you every week and helping you really see the power that you have and everything that you can do because of who you are. And I always love to emphasize that every single person has this power. It's not only a special few or if you're lucky, it's there for all of us.
but really recognizing it and remembering it and then utilizing it, living in your power. That is what I wanna help you to do. And especially as an entrepreneur, because that is one of the hardest things out there that you could do, that believing in yourself to try and go out there and be vulnerable. Being in your power is not only helpful, it is essential. And so that's what we're doing.
And that's why I have this podcast is to help you with this every week. And today I wanted to talk about really learning to manifest the big things that you're wanting by learning to do it with the little things. And this has been a fun experience in my life because it really goes to the power that we all have, but sometimes doubt. And when we have really big desires,
It feels so impossible and trusting and surrendering and believing in it is so hard for us sometimes. But what I have really learned to do is to manifest little things to build that confidence, to build that trust and surrender energy. And so going then almost like stairs up into bigger things is so much easier.
And so I've done other episodes about how to manifest and very like step-by-step kind of things, but today I wanna help you learn how to manifest little things, which will actually help you manifest the big things you're wanting to. And then it becomes relative, like what's big, what's little. It's all just opinion and your own perception anyway, but it just helps you to learn the energy you wanna be in, in manifesting, which is essential.
to doing it. And so as we start, want you to think of just one little thing that would be fun for you to manifest. And if you can't think of anything, we're going to have examples that will, that'll show you later. But this thing is something totally random that would be like, well, that would be cool. And then you're going to see how it's going to help you as we talk about this. So something I have noticed is that when people learn about manifesting or desiring to manifest, they're thinking of the big stuff.
I want this dream house. I wanna make a million dollars. I want to have this perfect relationship, this dream boyfriend slash husband. They're thinking the big stuff because they're wanting to manifest it because it feels so out of reach and it feels so far away and impossible and so I've gotta manifest it. I gotta put it out there. I gotta learn how to create this and the...
Downside to this is that if you haven't ever manifested anything the doubt and belief in it is really hard to have because if you are manifesting you really have to believe it is possible and so it's kind of a catch-22 is that we want the impossible but we're wanting ourselves to believe it's possible and this is Essential you have to be able to believe it's there
But when you're first learning to do it and for starting, having that gap between this is impossible but I'm believing it's possible is a skill you have to learn. And it's just like anything. It's like going to the gym, building muscle. It takes time. It takes getting stronger. And so you start with those five pound weights and you wanna get to the 50 pound or maybe 30 if it's 50 is too big.
But, you know, I love exercising and I think it's cute how I used to use the five pounds. But when I started with five pounds, it was hard and I couldn't lift. I'm thinking of just like a shoulder press, just lifting him up in the air. And I'm up to 25 now, I think, and it strains me, but it's like so cool to see that I could go from five to 25. But that's the same thing that we're wanting to learn with this skill of manifesting, of...
building it gradually and starting with the small, still might feel a little impossible, but so much easier to believe. And as you get better and better, the more aligned you are energetically. And this comes back to what I love to teach with being in power is that when we are manifesting, we are in our true selves. We are aligned with our authentic self because...
you wouldn't be desiring what you are, the impossible thing that you want wouldn't be there if it wasn't possible for you. So that's one thing that can help you close the gap between believing it is possible from impossible. But learning how to see that with little things makes it so much more effective. And when you're in that energetic match because you manifested something small,
The big stuff doesn't feel that big or impossible anymore. So this happened just last night for me, which is why I wanted to even do this podcast today. And this is a great example of a little thing. I went to Topgolf with my family, well, part of my family. My girls are at their grandma's house, but we still have our little one, our three-year-old. So me and my husband wanted to go to Topgolf. We love, it's just a fun date. I call it like the bougie bowling alley. It's like fun.
but a little fancier than just going bowling, right? And we love the food there. We just love the vibe. But they have a deal, a promotion going on that it was half off the whole week. So it was packed, of course. And everyone wanted to go to Topgolf that night. And so we walk in and I said, hi, we want a couch bae. And the guy laughed at me at the counter and said, oh, we don't have any baes. Do you have a reservation? You're going to have to wait an hour and a half. You might not even get a bae.
My husband said, dang it, we should probably just go to dinner somewhere else. I said, no, I want a couch bay and I want to golf tonight. So let's just eat dinner here. They have a restaurant on the side and I think we're going to get a base sooner than an hour and a half. And I think we're going to get a couch bay. And everyone was kind of laughing at me, but I believed it was possible a hundred percent. But an important part in this belief was I was okay if it didn't happen.
I decided I'll be just as happy to manifest a bay that's at a table. If you know Topgolf, it's like the bowling alleys where they have little, just you get your own spot, but they have tables where they're like high bar kind of tables with chairs, or they have ones with couches that's so much more comfortable, and they cost the same. It says there's no difference, but there's less of the couch ones, they're harder to get. So those are the ones I like. And...
Everyone was laughing at me, but I was like, why not believe that we're going to get a couch bay? Why not? It doesn't hurt to believe and think it's possible and go eat dinner and have fun while we wait and think that it's going to come sooner. There is no harm in believing that. And I could feel that because it's a little thing like what kind of Bay we get at Topgolf.
So we're eating dinner and we got a really great server. She was really nice, really helpful, helped us get stuff quickly and fun for our little girl. We ran into a friend, we were talking to him, just having a great time. And after like 45 minutes, I went back to the desk and said, hey, how's it looking for our bay? And he said, oh, yeah, it should be pretty soon. Time is actually looking faster than I thought at first. And I smiled at him and I said, that's what I figured.
It was the same guy that had heard me say I wanted a couch bae and he smiled back at me He could tell I was confident in what I wanted so Even less than like 10 minutes later. I got a text message That's how they let you know your bae is ready And so I went and checked in and he said you got your couch bae and I said I knew I would and so we went and we Golfed at the couch bae and we had so much fun and it was exactly the experience I had wanted to have that night
And I believed that I manifested that couch bay. Do you think we would have got that couch bay if I hadn't put it out there and told them I wanted a couch bay and believed I wanted a couch bay and been fine if I didn't get a couch bay? All of those things together is how I manifested it. And it's so simple, so small, it doesn't matter. And that's why I think it makes it so easy to manifest it because I'm in this energy of fun.
and enjoyment and 100 % belief and 100 % detached. I don't make it mean anything about me or if I'm good enough or if people like me, if it manifests or not when it's a simple thing like a couch bay. But do see how doing that gave me so much more confidence in believing I can manifest what I want happens even with little things like where we play at Topgolf.
I love to do this also with my kids. Whenever we park, we ask for a princess spot. And it's to point that even my three-year-old, when we drive into a parking lot, she goes, princess spot. And we start looking for them. And I always get one, always, to the point that I don't even have to say it out loud anymore every time. But I've just learned to manifest princess parking spots, the desires there. We don't even have to say it out loud. It helps. But if the desires in your body, I always find them.
So I just automatically look for it when I get to a parking lot. And part of it is that I look for it. Like I've noticed other people are driving with, always like, parking is always awful. We never get a good spot. So let's just go look in the back. They're not gonna manifest a princess spot. Now princess spot, in case you're wondering, means like at the front. We're little princesses, right? We need to have the nice parking spots. And so...
I always get one, whether I'm at the gym, the grocery store, the mall. Where else do I go? Those are the places I can think of. But it just is easy for me and I have a hundred percent belief in it. Now, sometimes it is like the very front spot. Now, sometimes it's a couple back, but I am just as happy no matter how close it is.
but they're always closer to the front and I'm always calling it a princess spot. Do you see that same energy of 100 % belief, 100 % gratitude, desire and detachment? If it's the front one or five in, I don't care. I believe there's a princess spot for me every parking lot I go to. This is fun. Again, it's just a little thing in my life, but I just believe in my...
manifesting power so much that I do it. Another example, I was just talking to one of my clients, is she was really wanting a baby and we had coached on it for several sessions of, I'm running this business, I want a baby, I know it's the right thing for us, how are we gonna do it? And then the baby wasn't coming. And so she decided, you know, I want this baby so much, but I'm just gonna trust a baby will come when it's supposed to come. Maybe we're not supposed to have a baby.
So she sold all her baby equipment and she decided to get a puppy instead. And she just felt really good about it and she was happy. But then, she got pregnant.
points there is that she still believed she would get a baby when it was right, but she let go of trying to control it. And especially with having babies, this is so easy to do because we feel like, okay, I have to be at the right time of my cycle. I have to be everything in line to be pregnant. And she let go of that to the point that she sold all her baby stuff because she did have other kids and got a dog instead. But look at how her energy changed.
And this is a bigger thing, bigger than the ones I shared, but I think it felt more possible to her than a million dollars. And so when this kind of stuff gives you more belief in your manifestation, you get more aligned with yourself and your power to manifest.
I think that when I talk to people about what they want in their business, it feels so impossible to them, but they still want it, but that gap is so large. so practicing with little things like this in your life will help so much. And it could be even things like, I want a reel to get 10,000 views. Now that doesn't mean the first reel you post is gonna get 10,000 views.
But if you believe and detach and just think it's fun, you're gonna get a reel with 10,000 views. And that's just something simple and like, it's not gonna change your business. It's not gonna make everything perfect and you're gonna get booked out instantly because you had that reel with 10,000 views. But just believing, I'm gonna get a reel with 10,000 views. Why not? I did have a client that did that with followers and she just said, I really want 10,000 followers at least. And she got it like really quickly.
But the important part there is letting go of time. And that's the kind of detached energy that is so important in manifesting. Like I had with the couch bay of saying, if we get a table bay, it's fine, but wouldn't it be cool if we got a couch bay? And then just, that's the surrendering and trusting energy that we have to have in manifesting. Because when we're trying to control it and force it, we block it.
and what we're inadvertently doing is saying, I am creating this by myself. But when we're manifesting, we're co-creating. Whether you want to say God, universe, whatever you feel, you are working with other powers to make it real.
So really seeing that is so important. So as you heard me talk about, as you are manifesting, we kind of said at the beginning to pick something small and see how you could manifest it. And after my examples, you could modify that and see something bigger. If you want it specifically in your business, you can do something small there. Or if you want to just do random stuff like princess spots or getting what you want when you're golfing at Topgolf, anything works.
but you have to have a clear intention first and really seeing this is what I want. Princess spot, a spot at the front, couch bay over table bay and getting it sooner than an hour and a half. Like those were the clear intentions. And then you have to let go. That is the surrendering detached energy. This is probably the hardest part for people, but learning how to do it with little things like,
saying, okay, I want a princess spot. I believe it's gonna happen 100%, but if it's 10 spots in, five spots in, or one spot in, I'm fine no matter what. That's the letting go. I'm not gonna control it. I trust the right spot will come for me. It's my princess spot, whichever spot I get. And even if it's 20 in, I'm fine. Whatever happens is good, but I believe it's gonna happen. A little bit of a paradox there, which I love paradoxes. It's a sign of truth to me of saying, I believe I'm gonna get what I want, but if I don't, I'm fine.
And that complete energy of letting go, detachment there is so powerful. And then being positive. This is the belief of saying, I believe it's going to happen. And what people don't realize is how often when they're manifesting, they say, I want a princess spot, but I never get one. So why would I get one this time? So I'm just going to go to the back. You don't even look for one. You don't stay in that positive energy.
And if you're not in that belief and positive energy, why would it happen? You went and looked in the back of the parking lot instead.
and then being in gratitude. I always talk about this with manifestation. We want to be in the gratitude as if it's already there. And feeling that, such a high vibration when you get used to feeling it with little things like princess spots and having a good bae at Topgolf, it makes it easier to be grateful for it when it's something bigger like a baby or getting more followers.
or getting a million dollars. You learn how to be grateful for it now. And feeling that gratitude puts you in the vibration to attract it, for it to come to you, to be open up to receive it, to manifest it. And so really looking at these wins that you create as they aren't small and being just as grateful when you get a princess spot as when you get a new client.
when you get a bay at hot golf and you get 10,000 followers. Like learning how to have this gratitude energy just makes manifestation so much easier. But starting with things that your brain labels as small helps you to go into bigger things and feel this energy you need to, to create it. And so this is how you bridge to the big stuff. And
how these little manifestations expand your vision and your readiness to do the next big thing. And so this is how I've learned to manifest big stuff in my business. I tell this story all the time, but when I first signed with a high ticket one-on-one coach, it was 12K for six months. I did not have that money at all, just sitting in my bank account. And I just said, you know, I'm gonna trust that.
signing with you is gonna help me make this money. And by just creating the money this first month, it will just be easy for me to move forward and do bigger things. And I told my coach that on the consult call, yes, I'm signing up with you. Yes, I don't have the money. And yes, I'm gonna create it this month. She didn't give me that idea, I did. It came from me and my desires. I was aligned with myself and I did it. I created 12K that first month.
So by signing with that coach, I was up leveling to the kind of person I was in business. And it's so fun just to see that big jump I made in what kind of coach I wanted to be, what kind of level of income I wanted to make, and I just manifested it that first month. Another story I love to tell with business is that at beginning of this year, I wanted three new clients to make 33K with the pricing I had.
I have different options for one-on-one, but I just assumed people would pick this one because it was kind of the sweet spot in the middle. And I just picked that number, those numbers from my options. And I went through every day meditating, believing, and it was in January and I wanted to manifest it in January and it got to the end of January and I'd only had one consult call and she had said, maybe. And I was like, that's interesting. I really believed I was gonna manifest this. And...
The first week of February, that girl signed up and she picked my most expensive offer. And the next week, someone else signed up, picked my most expensive offer and I manifested two new one-on-one clients at equal 32K.
That was such a cool experience because it showed that the timeline isn't as important as just believing. And I stayed in that belief even when it looked like it wasn't gonna happen. January 31st hit and I was like, huh, I thought I was gonna have three clients by today and I don't have any new clients. But I stayed in the belief and it happened immediately after. The first two weeks of February are pretty much January, right?
And so that's an important part of it is staying in that belief when the time isn't working how we think it is. And that is one of the biggest things I see stop people with their bigger manifestations is getting caught up in the timeline. And that is a form of control that we're holding onto that we have to let go of. And so practicing with these little things will help you be ready to manifest big things like this in your business.
I have so much confidence when I do these little things and it has built up to this confidence in manifesting the big things and visions I have for my business. And so that is how I say I am gonna be a millionaire coach someday and I don't care when it happens. I just know it's gonna happen. And so I'm manifesting it in the present but doing everything in the meantime to get there. I don't need it just to poof into my life tomorrow.
with these big things, giving more space and time for your capacity to meet it is important. And so what I choose to believe is that what I am doing every day and how I am expanding in capacity every day is opening me up and getting me ready to be this million dollar coach. And so I, I'm excited and I feel the gratitude and excitement I've let go of when it happens, how it happens, and it's going to happen. And that's so fun for me to say, because when I started my business,
I thought I would one, never want a million dollars and two, never be able to get there. I thought that money was icky and that was crazy to want that and how would I ever be a millionaire? That's not the world I live in. And now I can just say it so nonchalant and share it with you that that's my big vision. That's what I'm manifesting right now. And when it happens and how it happens doesn't matter at all.
but I'm gonna show up every day. I'm gonna keep expanding my capacity. I'm gonna do bigger things and follow and stay aligned to my true self so that she can guide me as I get there.
So let's go back to the idea you had at the beginning. We kind of touched it again in the middle. Now as we wrap up, I want you to think about it again. And what are you gonna do today to manifest that? And not being really in the how, but just really being open to what it is and saying, this is my clear intention. I'm letting go. I'm believing it's gonna happen and being positive and feeling the gratitude for it already.
just seeing how it happens for you today. It could be anything like a free drink, an unexpected laugh, someone giving you a compliment. I love, I've even shared like when I go shopping, I'll say like, I really need a new pair of jeans. So help me find the perfect pair at a great price. And when I went shopping last week with my daughter, I found a perfect pair exactly kind of what I was looking for. The only one on the clearance rack for $14. And this was at a more pricey store. I didn't even know it could go that low at this store. And I was like,
These dudes are so cute and exactly what I wanted and I manifested them. And so just believing that you're manifesting in everything just gives you so much more of that power to be in the energy to manifest the big things. So you build the big energy by honoring every little win. You're ready to manifest your big visions by manifesting every single day. And so when you look at
what you want each day, tune in to be aligned with your real self, listen to her, what she's saying you wanna do that day, and be open to desires that you're gonna manifest. Practice it with parking spots, practice it when you're at restaurants or little places like Topgolf, and you will be ready to manifest bigger things, so there's kinda like small, medium, large, but it all is the same energy, all the same process, so get your practice by
doing it frequently with the little things and you will attract the big things that you want. So really tune in and as you leave, say, I am always attracting what's aligned with me even in the smallest ways. You have that power, I have that power, no one is luckier than others, it's just how much you believe in it and how much you believe in yourself with this. So if.
This is working for you and you have any examples, I would love for you to share them with me. You can always reach out to me on Instagram, that's the easiest way to get ahold of me. Share it in your stories and tag me, send me a DM. And if you hate social media, you can always send me an email, aubin at aubinpolymercoaching.com and share your example of a little small manifestation that helped you be in this energy to manifest the big. And I can't wait to hear all about it.
because I know you have the power. I know you can do it. So borrow some of this energy from me and start believing it too. All right, Power Women, thank you so much for listening and I will see you next week.
