Aubin Palmer (00:01)
Good morning Power Women. Hope you're having a wonderful day and that you are ready to be more in your power today and step forward and do and be who you are to create and have everything that you're wanting. I have just been having so many cool experiences with women lately and seeing them shine and do and be who they are. And I just love getting to
witness and be a part of women's lives and doing all this and on this last Thursday night I had a workshop in my own house called Manifesting Abundance and it was so powerful. We had women come and be there in person and then open up zoom as well for people that live too far away or couldn't make it and still able to participate and it was it was just a magical experience. I
I love the power I feel with women together and this workshop was all about how to be in abundance and use that to manifest having more abundance or more of what you're wanting. And so it was kind of a fun way to show women and work together with the women to see how they are feeling what abundance is and creating with it and how they go hand in hand.
And so after the workshop, I really felt the power of the women because whenever I do workshops, I really like everyone to be involved and I have so much to share and my power is sharing what has worked for me, what I love and I wanted them to do that as well. So I've made it very open. Everyone shared experiences and insights they'd had. Everyone asked questions. Everyone helped answer the questions.
And that is really what I felt in the collective of the women working there together. so coming to these kind of workshops is so powerful. And after doing this one, I am going to be doing more. Like it was so beautiful and such a good experience. And it was so good for me just to see it and be in it and know that this is my kind of vibe to have women working together like that. So stay tuned. There will be more.
But I also, after I shared my part, said I have to share this as my whole audience and share what I had at least with you here on this podcast because that's what I love to do is really believe that everything I have I can give and that is what opens me up to receive and abundance really is giving and receiving and that is one of the things we talked about.
I'm gonna go into full dive of what we talked about that night and I hope that as you listen and anything stands out to you, you will receive it and then give and that could be giving by sharing this episode with others, it could be giving by putting it in your stories, it could be giving by reaching out and sharing with me and others what you have and it could just be sharing your own message as well. it all, it all is giving and so receiving and giving.
is going to help you so much to have more abundance in your life. Which brings to the first point of what is abundance? And before I really started learning about it, as much as I love to read and dive into everything I can about it now, it is my word this year, so I've talked about it a lot on the podcast, I know. But it used to just be having a lot. And I thought abundance meant you had
a lot, so if you didn't have a lot, are not in abundance. And that's not entirely true, because abundance really is infinity. And so it's not, â if you have zero, you're at zero, and then once you get to a hundred, you have abundance, and everything in between is nothing, or waiting, or not enough. All of it is enough.
All of it is abundance. And so there is no zero because in infinity, it's always enough. There's always more than what you see and it's just this infinite number. And so when we think of having in abundance, it means that you always have enough today and that you will always have more. And it's a little bit of a paradox with our minds how we like to think very
quantity and defined of thinking in just numbers. But when we get into the energy of abundance, there's so much more.
And so it's easy to think of abundance as just about the external and what you have. But the beauty of abundance to really create what you want externally is to go internal and to decide that you are enough to even at your core of who you are and what you feel and are thinking. Because what I always love to help women remember is that your power
is what you think, feel and do. That is always in your power. And that is what creates your energy. That is who you are. And you can be abundance, not based on the external what you have, but on who you are and how you are showing up and the internal value. And really what it comes down to then is your alignment. When you're in a
abundance on the inside, it doesn't matter if it's what other people want, what other people think, it's what you're thinking and feeling about yourself. And when you're in alignment, that all feels enough. You feel okay. You feel like everything is going to work. And an activity we did to help all the women really recognize this internal abundance
is to think of an experience where they felt that. Where it had nothing to do with the external and what they had, but the internal and that feeling. And I gave this example because it's so good to have examples, right? And so when I was a teenager, I lived in Albuquerque, New Mexico and it was warm in the summers, probably in the high 90s and not humid, but very dry.
And so we would get these summer monsoons that would just pour rain down because it's the desert. And I loved at night, if it rained at night, to just run outside. would put on shorts and a t-shirt and just go dance in the rain. And it would get completely soaked. And I felt so free. I would laugh and jump on the trampoline we had in our backyard and
jump in the puddles and just enjoy the summer rain and getting completely wet and dancing like no one was watching. I know my sisters would look out the window and think I was crazy, but I had so much fun and I felt like nothing was wrong. Nothing could go wrong and felt so alive.
And then, once I was completely wet, I couldn't dance anymore. I would come inside, take a nice shower, warm up, put on some sweats, and play Claire de Lune, the piano song by Debussy, on my little stereo, and sit in my window seat I had in my room and just watch the rain continue to hit the window. And it just makes this whole moment just...
absorbing my whole body and feeling abundance. And I didn't even know what it was yet, but I remember this feeling so vividly to this day because I couldn't have felt more carefree, more alive, more free than dancing in the summer rain and watching it from my window seat after. So I invite you right now to think about when have you felt this way? When in your life have you in
internally been in abundance. This feeling of alignment, freedom, alive, enough, carefree.
It doesn't have to have anything to do with dancing in the rain. It can be completely different and learning to see and recognize these moments. One of the women raised her hand and said, as you're saying this, I'm really seeing that abundance is always available. And I said, yes, that's exactly what I'm saying. It's we don't have to wait until we have something or something changes in our circumstances or life.
we create the abundance and how we are thinking and feeling. And we have that available to us in the best moments like this. But when we learn to feel this and be this abundance, regardless of what's going on, it's available to us in the hardest moments. And we can learn how to step into abundance and be this all the time, especially when things
externally don't look great, but because we are abundance, they are great and we feel the good in them. And this is how you really step into manifesting what you want. So I love this word of manifesting because it implies your involvement. You are creating it. You have a part in it. And the the play and paradox I did with calling this all manifesting abundance
is that to manifest anything you have to be in abundance. You are the abundance and if you are in this energy of abundance you can create anything you want and that's how then you have the external abundance as well because once we have this internal abundance everything you want is possible but because you have this feeling of abundance and see that everything is okay just like I had when I was dancing in the rain
you are able to wait. It doesn't matter when it comes. You're, you're patient and you feel the power of what you wanting and it creates it for you internally with the energy. And so you attract it and things come to you and miracles happen. And it is so powerful to watch this happen in your life. And so to make this easier to really see,
I helped the women with four steps I have seen because I have been studying this so much and listening to all the podcasts, reading all the books I can and what I have seen for me is these four steps that you need to really manifest. First being in abundance, which is kind of step one that I didn't put. This is the first of saying that it's a sandwich of abundance, manifesting and then abundance.
First, you have to really be in abundance and have that energy. Find your experience of dancing in the rain and know what that feels like. Be there. And then these are the things you can do from first being abundance to manifest. And so step one.
is to know what you want. And it was powerful that night because one of the women raised her hand and said, I don't really know what I want. I have a hard time when people ask me that because it's so complicated and how do I know what's okay to want? And this is so important because I remember when I was there and...
I would hear things like having a vision board and I was like, how do I even know what to put on the vision board and giving yourself some grace that when you were a child, you knew what you wanted and society has told you that that was crazy and that you needed to only want things that were made sense and were practical. And we often are conditioned and lose this ability to listen to what we want. And so
Having a vision board and saying what you want are so important, but you first have to know what you want. And something I love to do to know what I want is to go on walks and just ask myself, wouldn't it be crazy? Wouldn't it be so cool if this happened? And just see what comes to my mind having.
No commitment. No, I have to do or actually try to manifest anything that comes out, but just listening and see what comes out when you say that to yourself. And you could even do that journaling and just practice learning to let yourself say what you want, because I have really seen and know from experience with myself and clients that anything you desire is possible and you wouldn't desire it unless it was possible.
Because you don't really desire things that are like totally not in your spectrum. So I love to give the example of like at age 37, I don't have the desire to play in the NFL. I don't want to be a football player as a woman at 37. Like that's just not even in my desires. And someone could be like, yeah, cause that's not possible at all for you, but it's not even in my desires. It's not something that even feels real to me at all.
And so really tuning in to the abundance first helps you to step into these desires because when you feel carefree and freedom and alignment, you are more connected with your higher self, your true self, and you can hear these desires that are coming from your intuition, your future self that will help you know what is possible for you. So believing that these desires first are possible because they are coming from your future self, who knows what happens for you.
and you're aligned with your true self and God and that they will let you know what you want and really saying it and then having a way to make it clear. Writing it down is so powerful. Having it written down is going to make it so much more likely to happen.
And then I love to have a vision board. I have a vision board in my closet that I see every day when I get dressed and when I get undressed at night. And it just helps me remember. think images are powerful for our mind to see what is happening that we are creating. And then I have a declaration statement I read every morning that I say who I am and what I have in the present tense. And it is powerful. And I have it broken down into four category categories.
self, health, wealth and relationships and the things that I have in declaration form saying I am blank with those four categories and embodying it. We talked about how affirmations usually are hopeful but we don't really believe they're possible but when I say declarations I know they are happening. I say them to my mind on repeat in the affirmative and when you say things
yourself in the present with complete embodiment. You feel it in your body. You have zero. This isn't gonna happen. I don't know what is gonna happen. Why am I even saying this? But you're saying it with I am a powerful entrepreneur, coach, service provider, whatever you are, and I change people's lives every day.
You can't tell that's one of my statements because I can say that with conviction, with power when I say it to myself. So I embody it. It is a declaration, not an affirmation. So little rules I have with declarations that they're always in the present tense and I embody them and I know that they are real. Another way to really see that is that you know it's in your power. So it's not just like I am.
loved by everyone in the world because you can say that but it sounds a little bit more outside of you and distant but you could say I am love. I give and receive love endlessly every day unconditionally in abundance because it is who I am. You give and receive was in there but it's coming and going and it feels like your power. is a declaration of who you are and you embody it.
and you're still receiving love from others, but it's not like everybody likes me. That's not really who you are. It's about you, not just what other people think of you. If that helps to see what the difference is between a declaration and affirmation. And then with the vision board, I also love and have learned to really put things that could happen now. So I love to give the example. Sometimes you hear of vision boards, people put some big mansion they want in Miami and they don't even live in Miami. And they're like, hey, this is what's on my vision board.
But if that doesn't feel attainable to you right now, it's putting it off so far away and out of your power again. So I love to put things that I could believe happening today, even if it doesn't happen today, but really soon in the present for me. And so I'll give example like I put one on my vision board to get really healthy and lose weight and get very toned and fit. And it's taken over a year, but I'm
I'm starting to really feel it happening and it's been on my vision board for a year. But I see it every day and it helps me make decisions of how I'm going to live that day for my health. And it felt possible each day because I've gotten healthier each day, but I felt the power of what I wanted to be each day.
I have money goals on the vision board of how much money I could make and those are good ones to stack. So I've had a client before say like, I want to make 10 K a month. And I said, does that feel possible for you today? And she's like, not really. So I said, what would be possible for you this month? But that's, don't exactly know how it will happen, but you really could see it happening this month. And so she came to, I think it was 2,500 the month and she
predictable ways that she could make like half of that but then she was open and it happened. She made that much money that month because she put it in a declaration on her vision board and so she is gonna get to those 10k months but she's starting with the 2,500 months and it was stepping to that vision so that it could happen now and it's gonna help her get to that 10k and so she still has that 10k
but you can literally stack it on your board and have 10K and then have a 2,500 on it, top of it to create those months. So this is all step one of knowing what you want. And when people are wanting to create and they haven't even identified what they're creating, it makes sense that it's not manifesting for you. So really learning to know your desires is part of that and having a vision board and declarations is how you...
Manifest it. Rewire your brain to believe it. Open up your capacity to have it. Have it in the present. It's who you are. You're already in abundance with the feeling and energy and so then having this desire is so tangible for you. Another example of this was when I was several years ago starting to really level up my business. I wanted a one-on-one coach.
and I had a coach I really wanted to work with and so I did a consult call with her and it was more than I could afford but I felt it in my body that I could create that money and so I said yes on the consult call and said I am gonna make that money this first month so that I can just know it's paid for and move on and just create other things and it was 12k and I had never made that much money even close to that much money in a month
But because I decided that's what I wanted and I had a reason and a very clear purpose for it, I had the vision board. I had the declaration of that's who I was. I made that 12K that month and my whole business transformed by just signing up to work with the coach and say, I could make the 12K this month and shifting into that power of manifesting it. And it was one of the coolest months just to see like, â
I'm done being making this much. I'm ready to start making this much in my business. And I did. I manifested it that first month. And it was so cool to see that I didn't do it just because I got the coaching. I did it because I shifted my identity and who I wanted to be in my business. And so I made that money. And everything I had done leading up to that, of course, was a part of it. And so it's so cool to see how it all plays together.
when we are manifesting in the synchronicities of it all. So step two then is to be grateful for you what you want and open up to it. I love to really teach people how to receive. We often are so good at giving as women and then when I say how are you doing with receiving money in your business? How are you doing with receiving clients?
They're like, yeah, I want them. I said, no, no, how are you receiving them? And I was teaching the art of receiving in a class once and I had everyone open up their arms literally. So it's so fascinating how often we have our arms crossed and you are literally blocking things from you when you have your arms folded and you're blocking things from coming to you. And when we just open our arms up, you can do that right now, wherever you are.
you will feel your energy shift. You will feel more open to receive things. And I loved that night because Kristen Rudder who is there, she is also a yoga teacher. She's a coach and yoga teacher. She said, that is something I do with clients in my yoga is that we first open our arms up to receive. First open, you say, am open. And then you put your arms up and say, I receive.
and then you put your hands down in front of you in like the praying position and say, I am grateful. And then you put them out and say, I give and I love this, all this energy because being open, receiving, grateful and giving all go together to be in full abundance. But you really have to be so grateful and believe it's coming in the present. So
We often think, just want it, I want it, I want it. But gratitude is part of abundance. And I always say it's a catalyst to abundance. And so like we said, we want to be in that energy of abundance and being so grateful for what you want now opens you up to receive it. And it makes you patient. You know you're in abundance when you're okay, if it doesn't come instantly or you have a deadline for it. And I love...
this story of when I taught this art of receiving call because when I got off the call and I had opened my arms to receive, I had a notification that someone had just signed up to be my client. I had sent her the link. We had had consult calls, but there's always that in between period of them actually paying and she had paid and signed up to be my client while my arms were open. I don't think that was a coincidence that I opened up and it happened in that same moment. Another cool story with just this.
physical act of opening and being grateful is I was at another retreat to teach abundance and I told this story I just told and I had everyone open their arms and I love helping women just to open up and receive and one of the women came to me after I had spoken and was crying and said that she was really stressed before because her husband had texted her while at the retreat and said things were not meeting up the
things that he usually had to make money as an entrepreneur himself weren't happening and he didn't know how they were going to pay their bills that month. And then he had texted her again while we were, while I was teaching and a deal had just lined up for $22,000. And she was crying and said, thank you for doing this for me. And I told her, no, you did this for yourself. You opened up. She said, no, I was so skeptical. I didn't even think it was working.
but she had had enough to open up and receive and she was receiving for her and her husband together. And when we open up and are grateful for what we're going to have, you will manifest it will come because you're already knowing what you want. You believe it's real. You're saying it over and over in your mind in the positive, in the affirmative, and you're grateful for it like it's already there. And that helps you get out of
scarcity so much because if we obsess about what we're wanting and think about it all the time and I want it, I want it, it's gonna come someday, it's gonna come someday, we can get obsessed and then we're actually focusing on the lack of it. But if we stay in gratitude for it in the present, we move on. We just know it's coming and we're okay when it comes. And so I'd love to give the example of if you already have something, you don't think about it all the time.
You know it's there and so you're grateful for it but you think about other things. And so you know you're really in the gratitude when you can feel the gratitude for what you are creating and manifesting but not thinking about it non-stop.
So then number three is to recognize how you would feel beyond just the gratitude if it was already here. And this is so important to recognize is that everything we want in life is about how it will make us feel. So if you're wanting more money, how would it make you feel? If you're wanting a relationship, if you're wanting a certain new level in your business, if you're wanting
to have certain things if you're wanting a house or a new car or a nanny, like whatever you're trying to manifest, what would it make you feel?
and really identify this emotion in one word. Sometimes when we say, would I feel? We can think of all these long sentences. I would feel so good and I wouldn't be so worried about this anymore and blah, Like really narrow it down to a word. And that helps you know what it is you're wanting to feel in your body, the experience. So is it confident, happy, secure, playful, fun, excited?
These are just some examples of the one word emotions you could feel that will help you see what you're actually wanting to experience. And then the magic comes is that when you then feel that every day as you're wanting to manifest it, it helps you manifest it because you're actually in that energy, that emotion that you're wanting to feel. And so it comes to you and it also gives you the patience because you don't need it to feel good. You already feel good.
And it takes away the drama of it because when it comes you're like, yeah, of course it came. I already felt the confidence. I already felt how good I was at this. I already knew I was enough. And so I didn't need that thing in my life to feel that way. Again, it comes to the alignment and embodiment of who you are in the abundance because then you manifest it. It comes to you because you are that.
And then the last step is to surrender and really co-create. I really experienced that recently when I was trying to manifest winning Mrs. Utah and creating another retreat in April. And I planned on
both and really feeling great about both and they filled like a lot to do at the same time and I wanted both so I said I'm gonna manifest both and I had manifested a retreat in January already in October when I felt like planning it it felt like it was too soon people weren't gonna sign up and I said you know what I'm gonna go for it I really feel good about doing this retreat and so I said I was gonna do it in January and it sold out effortlessly I just manifested that retreat in January and I was like okay
I am really good at manifesting. And then in January I decided I want to manifest more clients. And I was doing everything I could to sign clients and had in-consult calls. People weren't signing up, but I still believed, did all these steps. And I had people from the retreat just reach out to me and signed up as clients. And it felt effortless again. So then after that retreat, after signing more clients in January, I said, okay, I'm going to manifest another retreat. That was beautiful. I loved that.
And I'm going to keep running for Mrs. Utah, so was going to have those two impossible goals manifest at the same time.
So believing that, I believed, okay, I actually am gonna win Mrs. Utah. And when I didn't, at first I was like, hey, what went wrong? But when I was standing on stage at the last part of the competition, walking in our evening gowns, I've shared this on other episodes. I pulled my hair back and showed my back, which was my big insecurity before, because I have scoliosis and kyphosis and showing my back.
completely was my victory and I felt so completely inside the victory and I felt like I had won and I had that experience on stage and so I did win in my own way and I still had the experience of winning what I really needed to win. I surrendered and had what I needed and so it wasn't exactly how I thought it was gonna be but I still manifested what I wanted.
And with the retreat, as I was working on creating this other retreat in April, I had a few people sign up. And so I was like, OK, it's happening. I rented a house. I hired a cook. I started planning what I was going to teach. I called it Manifesting Abundance. And as I talked to more more people about it, people were telling me they really wanted to come, but that it didn't work for them. There was so much going on for them in April. They already had trips planned.
They already had so much going on with their kids and they said, so please tell me the next time you do a retreat, but this one just doesn't work for me.
And it was confusing at first because I had already manifested the other retreat so effortlessly. But I said, okay, this is going to be a test of my belief. And I really had to surrender. And as the more and more I leaned into the retreat, I realized it wasn't going to happen the way I thought it was.
but I had already designed these sweatshirts I was going to give everybody at the retreat and I really wanted to make them still. And I said, how could I still have this retreat happen in a different way? And as I thought about it, I saw I could still do a workshop. I could still make this a live event in person and give out sweatshirts to everyone that comes and still teach and be in person and connect with people, which is what I really wanted from the retreat. And so I leaned into what the retreat was really about.
and shifted and pivoted into a one night workshop.
and people signed up for the workshop that had told me no they couldn't come to the retreat because it was all weekend but they could come that night. And I scheduled that workshop for April 24th which is when the retreat was supposed to start on a Thursday night. And as I looked for venues to host it at none of them, the ones I wanted were available and others were way more expensive than I realized. And as I thought and thought about it I said wait I could do it at my own house.
and have that home cozy feeling of connection with women. And so that's what I did. I had this workshop in my house. I manifested manifesting abundance, which is what I wanted to share with women and it happened. And I co-created with God in having that experience. And that workshop was so powerful. And I shared this at the workshop that this was the retreat and
So many of them said, this was our little mini retreat. Just being here tonight in your house. You did manifest it. They felt it. I felt it. It was real. And so surrendering and trusting and the mantra declaration I love to believe as I am manifesting and surrender is I am going to get what I want or something better. When I started manifesting that retreat, I didn't even have a little workshop in my mind. And so I
manifested what I actually wanted, but it looked different than I thought it would. But I still had the experience of helping women. I still connected with them and I still got to design the work, the cute sweatshirts and hand them out to everyone. It still happened and it was better than I even thought because it opened my eyes to that I can do workshops like this all the time and they are easier to plan and create for me and I'm still going to do retreats. Don't worry. I'm still planning another retreat already.
for the fall. Little tease, it's gonna be in Nashville. So we're getting those things all in place for that. But I'm gonna do other little workshops in the meantime because I loved that workshop so much. And there's gonna be other ways to connect with women and do things besides a big retreat that costs a whole lot more and a lot more planning. And so I will do both. And so doing that workshop served me so much.
but it was so important that I surrendered and was in abundance as I created and manifested that or I could have missed that opportunity. I could have said, okay, no one signed up for retreat, it's over and just fell into depression and feeling awful and scarcity and I didn't get what I wanted. But instead I let it shift and pivot and direct me to new ways and I saw what I really wanted. I created it, I manifested what I wanted. And that is always possible for you too.
So I hope listening to all of this has really helped you to see that abundance is how you manifest abundance and that it is always possible for you. It is always available and that these four steps of step one again is identify what you want. Step two is to be grateful and open to it. Step three is to know the emotion that you will feel and really embody it the whole time. And step four is to surrender and co-create.
And that as you do those with your manifesting in a state of abundance, you will manifest more. And because you're in abundance and feel that alignment and freedom that has nothing to do with what you have, you then open yourself to having everything you want. This is how I run my business. This is how I live my life. And this is how I love to help women in business be the power women they are and create what they want. So I hope this has served you and
helped you to really be who you are in being a power woman and I love helping women so if any of this has really spoken to you and you want help, share this episode, tag me in your stories and reach out to me. I have lots of offers open right now. I have a menu of ways to help you. I have retreats coming up. I have a group program on ambitious women. I am creating a mastermind for high level women really doing well in business ready to really go to the next level.
and I have one-on-one coaching as well that are available right now. So let's reach out, talk on a call, we will schedule it and I will help you figure out which is the best way to help you live in abundance and manifest more of what you want. I help with that in all of these different areas in different ways at different capacities for what you need right now. So I'm excited to help you do more of this yourself. Let's talk, share this with someone that you know needs this and continue to be the power woman you are.
Alright, I will talk to you next week.
